June 2, 2017 In Personal Coaching
How do you get a half-full cup?One of the most common questions my Life Coaching clients ask me is how to become more of an optimist. If it doesn’t come naturally it can be a really hard mindset to get into as you are so “programmed” to be thinking in a particular way. It’s effectively making yourself change a habit. Because that is what a mindset is…a habit. So I’d like to share three “habits” that you can adopt to help you to get started. I try to use these every day to stay optimistic in pretty much any situation(!!) NB: I would like to add a caveat that it may sometimes take a while before I find an optimistic thread of thought but these three habits usually help me to get there in the end! 1. Ask yourself questions that allow you see the optimistic viewpoint. When you’re in what seems like a negative situation the most common way of making something better out of that is to ask yourself questions that promote optimism and helps to find solutions. These could be:
- What is one thing that is positive or good about this situation?
- What is one thing I can learn from this situation?
- What is one opportunity within this situation?
- The people in your life. Try to spend more time with optimistic people and less time with people who seem to always be negative about things and “sap” positivity. Positive people will support you, add upbeat energy and can help you to find a constructive change in perspective when you have a situation that is bringing you down.
- The information you let into your mind. One of the simplest things you can do to create and support your own optimism is simply to regularly read blogs and books and listen to or watch recordings created by optimistic people.
- Read or watch something optimistic or funny for 10-20 minutes during your morning.
- Have an uplifting conversation over breakfast or early in your day…one I do with my kids is “Three things I am looking forward to today”. (My four year old’s stock answer of “lunch” needs work though!)
- Listen to a motivating audiobook or podcast as you ride the bus, your bicycle or while you’re walking somewhere. Remember-surrounding yourself in a positive outlook is going to seep into your DNA and help you to start thinking this way.